you could be sad about your otp but consider:
- one making awful breakfast for the other and the other eating it because they appreciate it that much
- one putting their ridiculous music on in the car and singing along while the other sits in the passenger seat with their head in their hands
- the two of them going down to the beach and one getting sunburned really badly so the other slathers them with aloe gel when they get home
- one getting home from work later than the other and stretching out on top of them like a big lazy cat while they sit on the couch in front of the tv
- one inexplicably bringing home an animal and refusing to drop it at the shelter so they and the other have to take care of it
- the both of them going out to a park and getting ice cream to sit with and eat on a bench
- one sending memes to the other while they’re at work so much they turn their phone off in exasperation
- one giving the other their jacket and not getting it back from the other until it stops smelling like them
Flames | VAST
let me give you something that is real
No form of touch is inherently romantic. Sex is not inherently romantic. Primary relationships and life partnerships are not inherently romantic. Intense emotional attachment and desire for another person is not inherently romantic. Intimacy of any and every kind is not inherently romantic.
What makes a particular behavior or feeling “romantic” is the individual experiencing romantic attraction to their companion and performing certain acts with romantic feeling and intent. That’s all. Romantic attraction and romantic love are internal experiences that cannot being universally defined or externally qualified. What’s romantic to you may not be romantic to someone else and vice versa. You may, as an outsider, view someone else’s relationship or behaviors toward their friend as “romantic” through your own personal bias, but that doesn’t mean they feel romantic attraction or love or view their own actions/relationship as romantic.
Really good blog post on aromanticism as it relates to intimacy, QP’s, physical touch, and life partnerships.
This is a really really excellent discussion of intimacy and touch as it plays into nonromantic relationships or relationships where one of the partners is aromantic.
Those nights when all you want is OTP fluff
note to self don’t think about your otp curled up together in bed, legs and arms all tangled together between blankets to fight off the cold and listening to the sound of rain and each other’s breathing, faces buried in tangles of hair or against the other’s chest/neck and pressing little kisses against their cheek or their shoulder or their neck and mumbling about how lucky they are to have the other because you will get feelings and then cry
Finding your OTP is a lot like finding the love of your life. You cant sleep and all the songs on the radio make sense.